Letter's To My Wife | Being Like Minded...

What it means to be in love

There isn't really anything that I can add to this... 1st Corinthians 13:3-7 (Msg)

If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don't love, I've gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I'm bankrupt without love.

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
Love doesn't strut,
Doesn't have a swelled head,
Doesn't force itself on others,
Isn't always "me first,"
Doesn't fly off the handle,
Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn't revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.

Letters to my Wife | Don't Manipulate...

Don't Manipulate

Focus: Esther 7:2
Reflection: Esther 7:1-10

My prayer tonight is more of a praise and thanksgiving to God.

I am so grateful that we are not manipulators. We operate from transparency and I am happy about that. That is not to say that we do not exercise judgement in how we bring things up to one another. Like Esther did in Chapter 7 of her book.

So the king and Haman went to dine with Queen Esther, 2 and as they were drinking wine on that second day, the king again asked, "Queen Esther, what is your petition? It will be given you. What is your request? Even up to half the kingdom, it will be granted."

Esther knew that timing was key to making her petition known to the King. You have a talent for doing this as well and I appreciate it. Let us continue to be vigilant in how we work with each other. Know that you are loved. I hope that this is a blessing to you.

Your Husband...

Letters to My Wife | Find Joy...

My prayer for you tonight is that you will remember that your joy is not determined by your circumstances. You joy is because nothing can separate you from the love of God. Don't let the mundane take away your joy in the remarkable. I love you and am praying for us. The watchman stands at the gate and is looking out over the landscape.

What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. Who is he that condemns? Christ Jesus, who died—more than that, who was raised to life—is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? As it is written:
"For your sake we face death all day long;
we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered." No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. - Romans 8:31-39

Your Husband

Letters To My Wife | Use Me As Your Mirror…

Use Me As Your Mirror…

Use me as your mirror, when the light isn't so great
I want to reflect the beauty that I see for your sake
he is there telling you that you are not enough
That you are not able that you are not tough
You, my dear, are a beautiful in every way
I see how much you've grown each and every day

As a mother you operate with precision and grace
I hear, "I love Mommy" and see a smiling face
When they talk with me when you are out
Don't let him try to fill you head with doubt
Let me be the mirror that drowns him out

As a wife there is none that can compare to you
My life would not be the same without you
I was lost and you helped me find my way
You never judged harshly, you just always had your say
I am grateful for your patience as I began to grow up
Thank you for seeing through all my stuff
He wants to tell you that you are not enough
That I want something that you are not capable of
You, my love, are all that I have hoped and prayed for
This life, with its ups and downs, I need more and more

Use me as your mirror because there is more that I see
I let God show me who you are, and that is more than enough for me.

-God's Man

Letters To My Bride | Father I Thank You

Father,
I Thank You for my Wife. She seeks you and so should I. Thank you for a marriage where we do not hold grudges nor do we play games. Help me to always look beyond what she is really telling me. In this case she was telling me that there was something wrong with the car. She was also telling me to listen to her opinion. In my arrogance I thought I knew the situation better. I should have considered her feelings more. I apologize for not using your discernment more because in the end God, she was right! I should remember that you stepped in and told Abraham to listen to his wife. That was Good Advice. I married her so I should at the very least take what she says seriously. You gave me a good one. I would say your best.
Keep working on me so I can be the husband that you want me to be.
In Jesus Name. Amen

Speaking Life Today...

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. -Proverbs 18:21

God I thank you today for my wife. I speak your blessings over her and our children.You called me to bless those who bless me and I have been wonderfully blessed bythem. Grant them the strength to make it through the day. Forgive them for anysins they may have committed whether knowingly or not. Give them your love today and do not depart from them.


He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD. -Proverbs 18:22

I give You thanks father for my wife this day. Let her know that I see her for the gift that she is. I thank You for making me into the Husband that can best meet her needs. Let her know today that I want nothing more than to be the Husbandthat You designed for her. I recognize the favor that you have poured out on myin my family. Empower me to be the priest, father, provider, lover, friend, teacherthat they need.

In Jesus name I thank you
Amen

No Flaw...

You asked the question that all men dread this morning, "Am I fat?" Men fear this question because it is so loaded. There are usually so many different questions bundled up in this one. I know I answered you this morning but I am not sure if it was what you wanted nor if it was really adequate. So I thought I would clarify it here from a very respected source.

Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the maidens


All beautiful you are, my darling; there is no flaw in you.

-Song of Solomon 2:2, 4:7

I found the second passage today while looking for a scripture today. I knew that it was perfect for you. This is what I truly think when I look at you. There is no flaw. I have watched you get more beautiful everyday. I have been amazed that I could desire anyone as much as you. Not just from eros but also from sturgo, philio, and most especially agape. I desire your presence near me. I desire your companionship. I desire to sacrifice for you. And yes I desire loving you. Like a lily among thorns I found you and I enjoy looking at you.

Now back to what you asked this morning. Never be concerned with how you look to me. I never see any flaw. And when you need to see your reflection look at me. I will be your mirror. I will tell you what I see. Try it out and see. Come to me later and ask, "What do you see?" I will tell you, "All beautiful you are, my darling; there is no flaw in you."

My prayer for you today
Father I ask that you talk to my wife today. I ask that You would fill her with what You see. I know I can only tell her what I see on the outside but You see her heart. You know her mind. You can touch her soul. Remind her of the beauty that you placed in and on her. Remind her of my love for her. Remind her that she is the apple of Your eye. Spend time with Her today.

In Jesus name I pray
Amen

-God's Man

Thank You For Carrying Me...

Hi Beautiful,

It is funny what happens when you stop the busyness of your day and commit to doing something nice for your spouse. I was in a flurry of activity at work when I decided to stop and prepare this letter for. As I often do I went to www.biblegateway.com to search for a scripture. Right on the front page was the Verse of the day.

"Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ."
–Galatians 6:2

This single line reminded me of one of the best things about our marriage. We carry each others burdens. Specifically you carry my burdens when I cannot. I know that I struggle with asking for help. I try and do everything but that is impossible. When I hit the wall and can’t carry them anymore you don’t get frustrated or angry. You just pick up my burdens and carry them for me, even better you help me take them to the. Thank you for always being there for me. Even in my sin.

When we expand the above verse and look at it in context I see our relationship illustrated.

"Live creatively, friends. If someone falls into sin, forgivingly restore him, saving your critical comments for yourself. You might be needing forgiveness before the day's out. Stoop down and reach out to those who are oppressed. Share their burdens, and so complete Christ's law. If you think you are too good for that, you are badly deceived." – Galatians 1-3 (Msg)

I thank you for always restoring me gently, never throwing my sins back in my face and never cutting me with harsh words. I want you to know that you are loved today.


I pray that God will give you rest and continue to rejoice in you.

-God’s Man

Sleeping…

It is 4:30am and I just put the little one down again and now I am listening to the two f you sleep. I am so awed by love itself. When I first realized that I was in love with you I thought that I would never love so much. Then we got married and I was surprised how much more I loved you as my wife than girlfriend. Now 5 years and two beautiful girls later I can't believe how much my love has grown.

I guess that is the nature of love. It cannot be contained. It cannot be destroyed. It cannot be reduced. Oh I know that the feeling of love, which people talk about, can change. I know that the passion can ebb and flow. However the true love that God teaches never dies. He demonstrates it time and again. God's love never fades. And it is better than anything else. You said it this weekend when you told me that no matter what we might preach about it always comes back to God's Love.

If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don't love, I'm nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. If I speak God's Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, "Jump," and it jumps, but I don't love, I'm nothing. If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don't love, I've gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I'm bankrupt without love. -1 Corinthians 13:1-7 (Msg)

We may not perceive it when we get locked in our sin but He is right there loving us. So as I listen to you sleep. I am reminded of what love is:

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
Love doesn't strut,
Doesn't have a swelled head,
Doesn't force itself on others,
Isn't always "me first,"
Doesn't fly off the handle,
Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn't revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end. - 1 Corinthians 13:7 (Msg)

I pray that I can love you like that. I want to always keep my mind on the good. Never look back, cover you, protect you, and very give up.

Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit. We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled.

But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love. – 1 Corinthians 13:8-10;13

I am so glad that I have found a good thing… no, I have found the very best thing of all. I have both the lover of my life and the lover of my soul.

Sleep well,

God's Man